Lately I have been thinking seriously of going to a therapist again. I have tried this a couple times in the past for various reasons. It hasn’t really been very successful for me. I was wondering – of any of my friends that read this blog…..have you ever seeked therapy and was it helpful or successful for you?
The first time I went – the therapist asked me what issue I was having and at the end basically just told me to get over it. It was very hurtful, because it was something that I was an issue that I was really trying to find a way to be OK with. The second time I went for something else and, it was to a different person and I didn’t really feel like I got anywhere with that either. He tried to teach me some breathing techniques, but in the end…..I still had the same issue.
SO – now I’m thinking about it again. Just someone to talk to that doesn’t know me and that can help me just be a better person and deal with some internal issues. I’ve searched online, but it’s really hard to tell from a website if you are going to “connect” with someone, and really, if in the long run, it’s going to help anyway. It’s really hard to open up to someone and be truthful about yourself.
On another note – My walking has been sporadic. I walked 3 or 4 times last week, I believe, but haven’t yet this week, though I plan on going tonight with my cousin, Alise. I had a game she was wanting to borrow, so she asked if I wanted to meet and walk and I’ll give it to her then. She is on a weight loss journey also, and has been going great. Now I just need to get that game unburied AND remember to bring it tonight!!
I’ve been really fighting this week with letting myself get in a depressed mood. I want to thank my sister for her shoulder/ear. I’ve been doing good with cooking most nights. (I’m trying) Tommie and I do eat out a lot…..I just like going out to eat. We’ve cut it down some though and I could really tell on our last credit card bill. We still go out, just not as often. I still have a list of “to do’s” that I haven’t gotten up the “want” to do, but I’m working on it.
Well, not a lot to say, just checking in. Thanks for reading.
Therapy helped me some after the last divorce. I think for me the biggest thing was that it was someone I could talk who was completely unbiased and had no involvement in what was going on at the time. Somebody who wasn’t a friend, didn’t know any of the people involved, and most importantly someone who I didn’t have to walk on eggshells around or pull any punches with. I could just say what I felt needed to be said.
The therapist would listen and guide me with questions. There was no “and how does that make you feel” crap, and she did ask some rather pointed questions or point out something that *should* have been obvious to me, but wasn’t. She was an uninvolved 3rd party who was able to look at the situation from the outside and give objective observations. And that was exactly what I needed at the time.
Insurance paid for 6 sessions, I probably could have benefitted from a few more, but in the end everything worked out like it needed to. Granted, this was just my experience…
One upside to the person I went to was that she didn’t like Freud either. 🙂
Exactly. Guess it’s all about finding a therapist that you feel comfortable with.